It
has been over fifteen years since Denny Kenaston first preached
the series of messages known as “The Godly Home.” Since then,
tens of thousands of copies of this message have been sent
out
across the country and around the world. Through the years,
countless testimonies of changed lives and new beginnings
have
flooded the tape ministry, giving glory to God. These testimonies
bear record that God is still fulfilling the promise that
was
given in the very last words of the Old Testament: “And
he shall turn the heart of the fathers to the children, and
the heart of the children to their fathers, lest I come and
smite the earth with a curse.” (Mal 4:6)
More than just a seminar on child training
and home life, these messages have awakened homes to many of
the inroads of worldliness and compromise that plague the church
today. They also have helped countless families bring back into
balance the biblical family patterns set forth by the Word of
God. Once godly priorities have been established, reports of
personal revival, renewed interest in evangelism and hearts
turned toward missions have flown naturally. As many of these
awakened fathers and mothers have sought to bring their homes
under biblical subjection, many have grown hungry for more practical
advice and answers to numerous questions.
Through the years, this cry for help has continued
to grow. Feeling a burden to respond to the growing need, Brother
Denny has found himself traveling extensively, speaking at seminars,
Bible schools, revivals and one-on-one with numerous seeking
families. Feeling stretched to answer the many questions and
to give the necessary practical applications, Brother Denny
searched and prayed for ways to multiply himself to meet this
ever growing need. It was from this burden that the book, The
Pursuit of Godly Seed, was written.
In addition to a thorough review
of the material covered by the tapes, this comprehensive
424-page manual goes
into many helpful details and illustrations that were not possible
to address during the seminars. As the back cover states: “The
Pursuit of Godly Seed is an inspiring manual filled with
old-fashioned Bible principles of child training and home
life ‘that work.’ This book contains a wealth of instruction for
your home. It is an A to Z child training manual with clear
answers for many a puzzled parent. It is ‘radical’. You may
never be the same. It is ‘inspirational’. Your heart will flame
with renewed vision. It is ‘practical’. You will be guided in
how to make it all happen. Brother Denny says, ‘Children who
grow up in an atmosphere of revival, with parents who love the
Lord extravagantly and obey His word joyfully, will be a mighty
influence upon this earth. This is a promise. Generations of
godly children come from this kind of home.’ With a clear prophetic
voice, Brother Denny calls the reader back to the old paths
that work.” In some ways this book is like having several
personal counseling sessions with Brother Denny, explaining
many details of home life and child training.
Even though this book is full
of various helpful techniques, antidotes and strategies,
Brother Denny emphasizes
that there is one crucial prerequisite that must be in place
before any of his recommendations may be employed successfully,
and that is a clear conversion. He stresses repeatedly that
none of these methods will be useful without the life changing
power of God’s grace. His book starts with the clear message
that without a genuine relationship with Jesus Christ, a
godly
home will be impossible. He says, “To set out on a journey
to raise our children for the Lord Jesus Christ without knowing
Him, without having a vital relationship with Him, is to place
the cart ahead of the horse. We won’t get very far. Many parents
are in this very frustrating position, wondering why they are
having so many problems getting it all together.”
After laying this foundational stone, Brother
Denny then dedicates several chapters to establishing a vision
for a godly home. I loved this part! As I read this portion
I felt an eye-salve applied to my eyes. I was able to see many
areas in my home that needed work. These chapters rekindled
a passion in me, personally, for my home. I have found that
embracing a clear vision of what God wants to do in my home
has helped me to persevere when pressures come or doubts threaten
to discourage me. Truly, my heart flamed with renewed hope and
promise that I was not doing this alone; I was working with
God for His desire to seek a godly seed in me! These chapters
do much to inspire feeble hearts and hands, inspiring faith,
courage and responsibility to rise up to the challenge and meet
the task before us. Brother Denny said, “Let us ponder some
of the inner dynamics of a God-breathed vision. God moves and
motivates His people by giving them a vision. The Bible is filled
with examples of this inner working of God’s Spirit. When God
is about to do something, He begins with a vision in the heart
of a man or a people.”
The book then moves on to some chapters on
practical lessons. My favorite chapter was the one entitled,
“Blessings: the Key to Obedience.” One of Brother
Denny’s
greatest burdens for writing this book can be found in the
pages of this chapter. I believe the vision set forth in
this chapter
comprises some of the key ingredients that many of us are miserably
lacking in our homes today. This chapter could stand alone
as
a helpful resource guide for parents. Brother Denny says that, “The
title of this chapter holds the most profound wisdom you will
ever glean for child training. In a sense, this is
the fountain from which everything else flows.” He goes
on to discuss the importance of love, encouragement, relationship
and time with our children, noting that parents are in danger
of “quickly passing over the aspects of love, blessings,
and relationships, and quickly going on to corrections, spanking,
and standards of holiness.” Brother Denny goes on to share
about how the topic of this chapter was wrought in the first
place, “Years ago, when my tapes on the home started to
circulate among God’s people, I received many troubling phone
calls. Parents called me to tell me that my teachings did not
work. They were referring to the tape on discipline, and many
times they were one of those parents who listened to that tape
first. They said to me, ‘My child doesn’t respond the way you
said he would on your tape. We are not friends when I am done
spanking.’ At first, I wasn’t sure where the problem was. I
spent much time in prayer and personal meditation, with a question
mark before the Lord. One day the answer came to me. The difference
is love. That is the key.”
In these chapters he speaks of the irreplaceable
discipline of T-I-M-E. He gives a personal testimony and writes
that there was a time when he noticed a discipline problem in
one of his daughters. He mentioned that his first instinct was
to increase his discipline and “bring her will into subjection.” But
then he said that the Lord revealed to his heart that perhaps
what his daughter needed was more love and attention. He then
dedicated a special effort to set out to work on their relationship
in many small ways. For about three weeks he turned more of
his attention to her—talking to her, going places with her,
etc. He writes, “The discipline problem disappeared in
about two weeks. I noticed a new light in her eyes when she
saw me
come into the house.”
I feel that my children have really responded
well to my efforts to implement this teaching in our home. When
I finished reading this chapter and set out with a determined
effort to make this time with my children, it really was as
if a light came on in their eyes! And they were so excited about
spending more time with daddy. It made me wonder just how much
I have deprived them from this time that they deserve.
Undoubtedly, many are wondering, “Does Brother
Denny address the topic of the rod?” Yes, building upon the
precepts of a right relationship with the Lord and a loving
relationship with our children, Brother Denny does give insight
to this sensitive yet important area of child training. He
balances
the seemingly paradoxical concepts of love and correction with
exceptional justice. He states, “We are dealing with some
balancing principles that are powerful if kept together, but
devastating if you let either stand alone. If you heed the
message
of the previous chapters [love], yet neglect those to follow
[discipline], you will raise a silly, uncontrolled child who
will not serve God and will bring you to shame. However, as
already stated, if you neglect a relationship of love and pick
up the rod, you will produce children who despise you and obey
out of fear and law (somewhat like robots).”
The overwhelming point that comes out of these
chapters is that, if used correctly, the use of the rod is a
wonderful act of love to our children. He states, “The
Devil has lied to us, and we have swallowed his subtle lie.
We have
believed the lie that spanking is a negative form of discipline,
when in fact, it is one of the most positive forms you can
use.”
Brother Denny devotes two entire chapters on
the topic of how to give a “godly spanking.” He calls
it a “sacred exercise.” I think one of the most notable
things that he discusses on this topic is the problem of anger.
He states, “NEVER spank the children in anger, NEVER…. If
you have a problem with anger, you need deliverance from that
anger through repentance. If that doesn’t help you, then get
some personal counseling. Do whatever you must do, but get free
of that anger…. Many parents are missing the whole concept
of chastisement. Chastise-ment is not judgment meted out for
wrongdoing.
It is correction for wrongdoing with future conduct in mind.”
In the next couple of chapters he discusses
training the will of our children and then he goes on to address
the “bondage of foolishness.” Later, he discusses
what “training” really means by presenting a positive, proactive
approach. Brother Denny then begins to address the roles of
father and mother and the atmosphere of a godly home. For Christian
mothers he discusses such topics as attitude, submission, dealing
with non-Christian husbands, etc. The messages presented in
these chapters are far from the modern, contemporary voice
of
feminism today. However, the testimonies of families that have
been turned completely around after hearing these messages
are
overwhelming. Ironically, it has been the women who have raved
over this section. He goes on to discuss the role of the women
at home. He does it with such a positive spirit that I think
it would make any corporate professional woman jealous.
Following suit, he spends several chapters
dedicated to the role of Christian men, leading it with his
pointed title, “Where are the Men?” Brother Denny
doesn’t
spare any punches as he discusses our role as spiritual leader,
financial manager, protector and teacher, highlighting the
powerful
influence of love and how essential it is to our calling as
men. He states, “Many of us men are missing a wonderful
crown upon our life because we neglect to give the proper care
to our wives.” I have been very blessed by his teaching.
I was particularly moved by the concept that “a spiritual
man will have a radiant wife.” He writes, “A shining,
happy wife provides the same crown for us men, and we are the
ones responsible for this glow. Our wives should have the ‘glow-ry’ shine
on their faces.”
There is so much more than time or space will
permit me to share here. In short, this book changed my life.
I greatly appreciated having the book so that I could read,
re-read, make notes and let the message sink deep into my heart.
After reading the book and hearing so many wonderful testimonies
of other families responding to these messages, I honestly believe
that the back cover is true, and any family with an open and
willing heart can:
• Learn how to restore wounded
relationships with your children.
• Learn how to spank your child in such a way that he will thank
you for loving him.
• Find key answers to deal with a strong willed child.
• Bring your home from chaos to a place of peace and rest; God’s
Word has the answers.
• Learn the most powerful secret on how to bring children to
a state of joyful obedience.
• Fathers, you are a teacher. Find out how to make it reality
in your home.
• Learn about three mysterious influences that will affect your
children for eternity.
Following are some testimonials from others
who have read the book:
“I am a pastor of a growing church. I read
Brother Denny’s book and wept. God has opened my eyes to my
responsibilities and I am leaving the ministry so I can set
my house in order.” Oklahoma
“I listened to the sermons
on the Godly Home a few years ago and received much help.
However, reading
his book has been much more helpful. I learn more by reading
than listening. My home will never be the same.” North
Carolina
“This book reads like the
Bible; I must stop and meditate on each page. God is stirring
my heart
and
changing my vision.” Pennsylvania
“Just finished your book.
It is a spiritual hydrogen bomb (to God be the glory!).
I know it will go exactly
to the people that the LORD intends it, though they may be
few.”
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