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Young
Ladies and Their Thought Life
By Rachel Deatherage
It is the end of a long day, and you are
beginning to feel tired. Alone in your room, there is one last thing
to do before getting in bed. Holding a letter in your hands, you
turn on the lamp and sit at the desk. In this quiet moment, when the
day is over and night is drawing close, you slide the paper from its
envelope once more.
The words on the paper are written with care, in
handwriting familiar to you. Such a beautiful letter, one you have
read so many times the folds are beginning to tear. Once again you
unfold it carefully, your eyes following the lines of script that
you have memorized by now. You treasure this paper. This letter from
your loved one.
Each sentence is dear to you, especially the ones
at the bottom of the page. For there at the end of the letter, when
he was almost out of room with so much more to write, your dear one
wrote his closing words to you. It is here, as time was running
short, that he writes the most important things. Things for you to
remember, to reflect upon, to carry with you in your heart.
There was a man who wrote such a letter to his loved ones.
Sitting in prison, his body scarred from many beatings, he held a
roll of papyrus in his hands. How he longed to go home to be with
Christ, which was far better to him than life on earth. He also knew
that the church needed him, and for that reason he was content to
remain as he was.
How he loved the church! The roll in his hand was a letter
addressed to the believers in Philippi. The church of the
Philippians was his first European church, founded on his second
missionary journey. The people there held a special place in his
heart and in his thoughts. And now, as he neared the end of his
letter, he had one more thing to tell them before closing with words
of thanks for their gift:
"Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things
are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure,
whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report;
if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these
things."
In his parting words, Paul gives a list of things that we should
think about, things to fill our minds with and dwell on throughout
the day. Each word used to describe what our thoughts should be has
its own meaning and impact on our lives. As daughters of the King of
kings, we are to be "all glorious within." This phrase from Psalm 45
describes our inner character, which begins with our inner thoughts.
It is a convicting experience for me to look at each requirement
and hold my own thoughts up to the standard set in these verses. I
fall so far short. Rather than being condemned, I can remember that
no one can even begin to grow and change old thought patterns until
they learn about the new ones. So let's begin to learn new ways of
thinking, be encouraged and press on to higher ground!
Whatsoever things are true...
As I run through this list in my mind, I always get caught on
the very first item: Are the thoughts I am thinking right now true?
Often I have to admit that they are not. What are true thoughts?
True thoughts are not fiction, fantasy, or imaginary. We girls find
it very easy to live in fantasy land. I suppose it is because we are
emotional creatures by God’s design.
It is easy for me to begin daydreaming when I am doing something
mindless. Washing dishes, weeding and stirring soup all could be
perfect opportunities for praying to and worshipping the Lord; more
often than not I find my thoughts drifting out of the true category.
All those what-ifs can be so interesting, especially if you have a
good imagination. What if I had that house, that unlimited budget
with interior designing talent, that magazine-cover garden? Or
beyond material things, there are the more dangerous what-ifs involving the heart.
I have realized more and more that this is a sad waste of my time
and my Lord's time. All the days I have let my thoughts drift in a
world of unreality, I was unable to listen to the Lord's voice as He
tried to guide me refine me and draw me to Him. When I finally push
those thoughts aside and listen to Him, I realize how silly I have
been to waste even a moment of my life here on earth thinking untrue
thoughts. Helen Lemmel wrote words in a song that voices my desire
so beautifully; "Turn your eyes upon Jesus, look full in His
wonderful face, and the things of earth will grow strangely dim in
the light of His glory and grace." That is how I want to spend
those times when my hands are busy but my mind is not: my thoughts
turned to Him, turned to His glory, turned to His love and His grace
that is true, and not turned to the things of the earth!
Whatsoever things are honest...
The Greek word for honest means grave or venerable. My thesaurus
gave some more insight on what those words mean. It listed
serious, reverenced, noble, dignified, sober. This second
standard for our thoughts is one that probably affects me more than
I first realized. When I started thinking about it, it was hard to
visualize a dignified, noble, serious thought, or to imagine how I
could always think that way. Then I started thinking about my
actions. I realized that my actions are an overflow of my thought
patterns. A good way to tell if my thoughts line up is to take a
good look at my behavior. I know I have had times when I have been
anything but reverent and serious. The opposite of these words would
be silly, giddy, and foolish laughter. There have been many
times that my actions did not leave the impression on those around
me that I was a sober-minded, godly young woman. How can our
thoughts line up to this standard when our actions do not? I was
convicted about this as I pondered the meaning. I know God gave us
all a sense of humor, but I can definitely tell when I cross that
invisible line from pleasant humor to foolishness that doesn't
glorify the Lord. I want everyone I talk to and spend time with to
see Jesus in me. Is it not a blessing to have a patient, loving and
forgiving Savior? Instead of condemning myself as I reflect on these
qualities of godly thoughts and how much I still need to grow, I can
thank Him for opening my eyes to the deeper truths in His Word.
Every morning is another beginning and a chance to take His hand and
follow Him on the upward way!
Whatsoever things are just...
The word just, in this instance, means righteous rather than
according to justice. In the Bible Jesus is referred to as "the Just
One" and "the Holy One and the Just." The word used in those verses
is the same Greek word meaning righteous. The book of Proverbs gives
some insight to what a just person is like. It says "The tongue of
the just is as choice silver...the mouth of the just bringeth forth
wisdom...the path of the just is as the shining light, that shineth
more and more unto the perfect day."
This gives me a glimpse of what our Lord wants our thoughts to
focus on. I picture just thoughts as being pure, holy, upright and
blameless. As the verses in Proverbs shows, when our minds are full
of just and righteous thoughts, our speech will also be just. "Out
of the overflow of the heart or mind the mouth speaks." We girls can
have our minds full of thoughts that envy others, find fault or
judge what someone else is doing. This too often gives us away when
it comes out of our mouth. The words of that famous consecration
song are fitting here," Take my lips and let them be filled with
messages for Thee...Take my voice, and I will sing always, only, for
my King." This is a high standard: to have my thoughts and speech be
just and righteous at all times; to think of and speak to others as
my Savior would have done. He is the Just One. The more I fill my
mind with just thoughts, the more like Him I will be.
Whatsoever things are pure...
This word is used in other places in our Bible, and sometimes
means clean, sincere, or clear. In this verse it means
chaste. Our dictionary had a good definition of this word, which I
have slightly modified: "Chaste implies moral excellence made
evident by avoiding acts or thoughts that are not in keeping with
godly maidenhood." Each one of us young sisters has some idea of how
this standard should affect our thoughts.
Chaste thoughts are difficult to keep up while reading romance
novels, for example. I know that the books I read greatly affect my
thoughts, usually long after I put the book down. It can be so easy
to fall into a habit of daydreaming -- of putting myself in place of
the heroine in the story and reliving each scene in my mind. For
this reason I try to be careful about what I read, knowing it has a
real impact on my growth as a Christian.
The Lord Jesus wants to be our life’s joy and fulfillment. He
wants our thoughts to be centered on Him, on His love and desire for
closer fellowship with us. "Blessed are the pure in heart." How
undeserving I am of such love! It makes all other earthly loves pale
in comparison. My Savior waits with open arms to lead me ever closer
to Him, to continually open my eyes to more wonders of His love,
until I can turn aside from what is not pure and delight in Him
alone.
There is a song that is an inspiration, which I want to be able
to sing with all honesty.
"I can
never tell how much I love Him
I can never tell His love for me
For it passeth human measure
Like a deep, unfathomed sea
‘Tis redeeming love in Christ my Savior
In my soul the heav’nly joys begin|
And I live for Jesus only
Since the fullness of His love came in.
--Eliza H. Hewitt
Whatsoever things are lovely...
I spent time last spring looking at landscaping books from the
library to help plan a flower garden. I wanted it to be a delight to
look at and a joy to spend time in. Coordinating colors in delicate
pastels, varying heights, textures and scents would make it a truly
lovely garden. I wanted a bench among the flowers with a view of the
hill that rises out of the west, beyond the prairie dotted with
wildflowers and the rolling farmland. Doesn't that sound like a
lovely place to spend time in?
The spot where I hoped to plant this garden was covered with dead
weeds. There were a few stacks of old snow tires nearby, and a
propane tank among patches of mud. This place was not one that
anybody would choose to spend time in.
Which garden is more like my thoughts? Would the Lord enjoy
spending time among them? As a young lady, I like to imagine Him
joining me in my thoughts and delighting in their loveliness. This
is a good way to picture lovely thoughts: they are thoughts the Lord
would be pleased to see. I want so much for my dear Savior to enjoy
being with me. I know that it grieves Him when I choose to dwell on
thoughts that are not lovely. He is so patient, loving and gracious
with each one of us. What a blessing to have a Savior that came to
such an unlovely earth to redeem His children!
Whatsoever things are of good report...
This makes me think of a grade-schooler with her report card.
She knows what it says, how it reflects her attitudes, and how much
she has learned. Is she eager to show it to her parents, or would
she rather hide it? Is it a good report? As young ladies we can
relate this to our thoughts. Rather than showing how I am doing in
math and spelling, my thoughts reveal my character and how I am
doing spiritually. Are all of my thoughts ones that I could share
with my parents? Or would I rather hide them?
Aside from our earthly parents, our Father in heaven hears every
word we speak and every thought we think. How do we feel about His
opinion of our thought report card? Does it matter? I know His love
for each of us is unchanging, regardless of our own actions; but I
would love to have Him approve of my thoughts.
God already knows, and our parents should be able to know, all of
our thoughts. If they were all projected onto a giant screen for
everyone to see, would I be hiding under a chair in the back row? Or
would my thoughts be of good report? This is a convicting question
for me. I want to be transparent, open and real before God and my
family. It is hypocritical to speak and act one way, then let my
mind produce thoughts that I would never want anyone to know about.
God will always be faithful to remind me if I ask Him, "Please
show me when my thoughts are not right." When I begin thinking
thoughts that are not of good report, He will prick my conscience. I
can say, "Oh, that's right! This isn't good. Forgive me Lord. Thank
you for reminding me."
"O Lord, thou hast searched me, and known me... thou
understandest my thought afar off...and art acquainted with all my
ways." I do not want to be ashamed of the Lord listening in on my
thoughts.
If there be any virtue...
The word virtue is a powerful word. Its meaning is force,
strength of mind or body. Most of the verses that speak of
virtue are in the Old Testament. Proverbs 31 and Ruth 3:11 both
speak of virtuous women. The only time this word is used in the New
Testament, besides our passage, is in the book of 2 Peter. Twice in
the first chapter Peter uses this word saying, "...His divine power
hath given unto us all things that pertain unto life and godliness,
through the knowledge of him that hath called us to glory and
virtue...And beside this, giving all diligence, add to your faith
virtue..."
In these verses we can see that we are called to a life of glory
and virtue. We should strive to add this quality to our faith. How
does it apply to our thoughts?
Remember the literal translation from the Greek: strength of
mind or body. When I think of someone who has strength of body,
I think of all the hours of exercise and hard work it took to
achieve that strength. Strong muscles do not just appear overnight.
Strong people are self-disciplined, doing only those things that
would help them to reach their goal. To build muscle, they would
never indulge in chocolate fudge brownies while lying on the couch
all afternoon. They would go jogging, eat healthily and stay in
shape. People like this can run marathons and win.
We need that same kind of self-discipline in the area of our
thoughts. Just like a man preparing his body for a race denies
himself those things that are not beneficial, we should strengthen
our minds by refusing to think those thoughts that are not
beneficial to our spiritual health.
Those ‘strength of mind’ muscles may be weak at first. I have
found it so easy to slip back into old ways of thinking, but each
time that I use those muscles to push bad thoughts away they become
even stronger for the next battle. This requires determination and
diligence, guarding my mind from thoughts that have no right to
intrude and not letting even one slip through for just a minute.
Even if I am using those muscles regularly, my own strength is
not going to be enough. If I do not have the power and strength of
the Lord in my life, I can never gain victory over my thoughts. The
Lord is my helper, and He has said, "Fear thou not; for I am with
thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee;
yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand
of my righteousness." What a blessed promise.
If there be any praise...
In this verse, the word praise means commendation. The same
word is used in other verses implying a job well done. 1 Peter 2:14
says: "For the praise of them that do well..." and that is the way I
relate this word to our thoughts. Are they commendable, or worthy of
praise for a job well done? 1 Corinthians 4:5 is a verse that ties
in with this thought. It speaks about the Lord who will "bring to
light the hidden things of darkness, and will make manifest the
counsels of the hearts: and then shall every man have praise of
God."
This brings to mind the picture of God sitting on His throne on
judgment day. He opens the book in His hand and suddenly all hidden
things of darkness— perhaps the thoughts I dwell on as I lie in bed
at night —are there in the light for all to see. The counsels of my
heart, all my thoughts and dreams and hopes, are made manifest. The
Lord then looks at me with a smile and says, "Well done, good and
faithful servant."
This is what I want with all my heart, to have the praise of my
Lord when all my thoughts are brought before Him. This is the reason
to strive for thoughts that are true, honest, just, pure, lovely and
of good report.
It seems difficult sometimes to keep constant vigil over my
thoughts, but what a small trial compared to so many others. If
there is such reward at the end, it will be worth it.
Think on these things
The standard Paul gives for our thoughts and lives is a high
one. After thinking about this verse, I noticed that each word has
an impact on different areas of my life. Not only are my thoughts
important to God, so are my actions, speech, reading material,
fellowship with Christ and my relationship with my parents. So much
in one verse.
What do we think about? If each thought quality listed here were
a different strand of colored thread on a loom, the picture that the
Master intended to make would not look right if one of the strands
were missing. All of them must be used together to make the
beautiful tapestry. What is the picture on that tapestry of our
minds? What are we to think about?
The Lord was speaking through Paul as he gave us this list. I can
almost hear His quiet whisper speaking each word, "Whatsoever things
are true...honest...just...pure...lovely. Think of Me."
What or who else could ever fill all of the qualities listed
here? After all of my earthly thoughts are examined and found
lacking, when everything untrue, foolish, evil and impure is taken
away, what is left to think about? Only Christ.
Here is an incredible verse: "How precious also are thy thoughts
unto me, O God! How great is the sum of them! If I should count
them, they are more in number than the sand." My Lord is thinking
about me. His thoughts toward me are so numerous they cannot be
counted.
"Think of Me." He whispers. "I am thinking of you."
Rachel Deatherage
Grangeville, Idaho
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